The Reality of a Kind Divorce

Here’s to new beginnings. #divorceday #divorce #30something

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Oftentimes the right thing to do is a really hard thing to do. This past year has been a big challenge for me to realign my life into something that I want. In order to do that I felt like I had to destroy my partners life and that was very painful to think about. I never wanted to hurt anyone else but I had to decide to either continue to live sad, lonely and depressed or change and accept the hurt that being honest with myself and everyone else will cause. My divorce was finalized yesterday. My ex-husband leaves the state tomorrow for a new job and I really hope he is successful. The corgis are all staying with me. My little Corgi Cottage is coming together and we are working on selling our previous home. I’m hopeful that 2016 will be a year of rebuilding and joy. I’ve got a lot of things I want to do with my quilting and art as a way to heal.  Working on the Corgi Cottage has been a lot of fun getting things setup. The yard needs a lot of work but the corgis love it already.

Corgi cottage sewing studioSetting up my sewing space has been a process. I have to rethink a lot of organizational ideas and how I’ll be hanging things. The closet is able to hold a lot of stuff and I plan on sewing some fabric baskets to organize smaller things so they don’t get lost. It’s also a great way to use up a ton of scraps. The room is a great size overall and has so much light I love it. I’m about 70% setup.  I have to repaint one of my peg boards and then mount that for my rulers, mount my TV on the wall and a shelf for my Roku and blu-ray player. I have a good amount of artwork that needs to be hung around the house.

My closet is pretty full of stuff so I have to make a list of UFOs and get to working on either re-purposing some of them or finishing them.  I’m now storing my thread in bins by color in the closet so I don’t have so much on my walls. I think it will also be better for the life of the embroidery thread. I still love my scrap penny jars – I have a box of scraps I need to sit and sort through by color so the jars will be filled up some more! Right now I have them sitting on my bookshelf but I may install a few shelves above my cutting table and put them up there.  As long as I can reach them easily with a footstool I think they will work being displayed up high.

I still have a box of precuts I haven’t unpacked yet that need to go on the bookshelf so that space will be very colorful when I’m finished. I had to sell the tall foldout cutting table I had because it just wouldn’t fit in my new room. I have a long sturdy table now but I may need to put it on risers so my back doesn’t kill me when I’m cutting a ton of fabric for a while. I don’t think it’ll be too difficult to do though.

2015 was a year of Simplifying for me.  I downsized my things, my life, my home. I really want 2016 to be the year I explore new ideas, rebuild my life and figure out who I am. My word for the year is reconnect. And now – photo updates!

A very corgi Christmas #kawaii #corgi #onesie A photo posted by Katie Vickery (@magnoliafly) on

  Long neck Cornwallis #tortoise #tortoises #greektortoise #testudograeca #tortoisevideo #tortoisehatchling #herps #herp #reptile   A video posted by Katie Vickery (@magnoliafly) on

How dare you disturb me in my nest #corgi #corgisgonnacorg #barkbark #pembrokewelshcorgi #corgination A photo posted by Katie Vickery (@magnoliafly) on

Having a fun day doing errands before my cruise next week! #selfie #bunnyxproductions #addictedtoaqua A photo posted by Katie Vickery (@magnoliafly) on

Bernie likes the IKEA chair in the sunroom #quilts #quiltladder #bourbonmoth #pembrokewelshcorgi #corgi #owl #ikea A photo posted by Katie Vickery (@magnoliafly) on

Comments

  1. “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”

    I wish you a very happy and healthy New Year.

    QuiltShopGal
    http://www.quiltshopgal.com

    PS – I’m finding it really easy to follow you via http://mycreativebloglist.blogspot.com/, although I still follow you via a variety of tools.

    • Aww thank you 🙂 I’m definitely feeling my days are happier now overall and a lot of people have told me even in photographs I look truly happy after making this decision. Moving on and I’m excited for all the possibilities!

  2. Change, especially life overhaul, everything different change is frightening. And when you know it will not be universally applauded by those you love, that’s even more difficult. Here’s to happiness and contentment for both you and your ex. A kind divorce is definitely the best if a divorce must happen. I know you gave it your best shot. Here’s to 2016!

    • I can’t imagine a vicious divorce so I’m glad we were able to end things friendly and still be on speaking terms. Definitely ready for 2016.

  3. A New Year, a new direction. Sewing feeds the soul. Look forward to seeing what you create this year. I spent the last year not seeing, but that’s changing for 2016!

  4. Hugs to you and best wishes. New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings, and the opportunity to hit the reset button for your life is not one to be taken lightly. I’m nearly 2 years out from my divorce and it’s been a journey to healing. You don’t get over it: however, you do get through it. Having things you love like your sewing, your dogs and your family helps greatly.

    • Hugs to you and thanks for the encouragement two years out. I’m really looking forward to getting back to quilting again. I’ve missed it a lot.

  5. bobbi dougherty says:

    your house is so cute! Good luck in your future space! You will do wonderfully…

  6. Hope you’ll find a happy life and s happy you! Here’s to change for the better Katie! I can’t wait to see what you will create this year. Are you gonna work on your book?

    • Well I’ve got some new ideas that I want to try out before I redo my book design submission. Experimenting with some new things that have been floating in my head the past year. I’m excited!

  7. I have been wondering how you are. Everyone looks pretty good to me. My experience was a kind of adrenalin boost the first couple of years after divorce and it saw me through into the next stage of my life. It is nice to start new and begin to look forward once more. Cheers Katie……and we all look forward to new updates.

  8. Marye Albritton says:

    I’ve thought of you so often in the last year. I’ve been through 2 divorces and I think they are always difficult but the last one was really hard because of the lies. You gave it a great shot, you were honest, and you kept it as civil as one can. I wish the very best for Ringo and for you! Can’t wait to see what 2016 brings!! I surely hope it is better than 2015 (on a personal level).

  9. Linda Deutscher says:

    Reading your post brought back the feelings I too felt when I realized that I needed to end my marriage to my first husband in order to feel whole once again. With each passing day you will begin to feel whole, happy and secure in the decision that you made and the real you will blossom and grow.

  10. I’m going through the same thing, but it isn’t friendly. My goal is to keep looking for the gifts in this growth opportunity. Some days ar tough, but I know it’s the right thing to do. We’re going to thrive!

  11. Good decisions are not always to make or live out. Praying the best for you in the coming days and months. It sounds like you are doing well, happy and moving forward well. For that I am glad for you.

  12. Your corgi quilt is beautifully done. I bought the pattern on Craftsy and am anxious to begin it. I, too, am a corgi lover and have several. I am a member of a local pembroke club. We have a specialty show annually. I wonder if you would permit I use your pattern for a raffle quilt to benefit the club. I would credit your design on the label.

  13. KathyinMN says:

    Hope all is well with you in your new place. Its a lot of change for a year. Glad the corgis have settled in, hope you are settling in to.

  14. Divorce is not an easy thing. I speak from experience, but now you have a fresh start. I am so glad that the desire to quilt has come back to you and you view it as a way to heal. You are so talented in so many ways. God bless and keep you and the corgis!!! (And Cornwallis, too!)😊

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  16. I hope all is going good for you. I too just went through major life changes and it can be so scary. Like they say when one door closes, another opens. Here’s to wide open, opportunity-filled doors in 2016!